I remember the first time I laid eyes on my husband. Two weeks, yes two weeks, after that first glance I was saying yes to a marriage proposal never thinking the “butterfly, can’t get enough of your love” feeling would ever end. He was in my eyes perfect in every way! Well, thankfully for me, I have a husband who really meant what he said when he made that commitment 15 years ago…”through sickness and in health, the good and bad times, till death do us part.” I know I am not alone when I write marriage takes work especially when you add four kids to the mix, two businesses, and just life in general. Things can get pretty crazy real fast and before you know it your marriage can head down hill and you’re sitting there in complete shock of how did it get so bad!
I know I am about to catch a lot of flack about this, but it was laid on my heart. I look around this life and see so many marriages on the verge of destruction or those that have already called it quits and it really breaks my heart…not just for the husband and wife left to pick up the pieces, but for the kids, if any, that are left with battle scars. I remember, cause I was one of them. Some are lucky and some are not so lucky. The things I am just beginning to learn about my marriage are real eye-opening truths that just really hit home for me within my own marriage that I feel I must share.
If you are not aware of it by now the Word of God has everything we need to live godly, abundant lives and from what I can tell if done right produce “Boomarang Blessings.” Booma what blessings you ask? Boomarang blessings…instruction from the Word of God that when done right “BOOM!” Your obedience sends out a blessing that comes right back to you! I have found this out in Ephesians 5:33 “However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Yes, believe it or not that is written in the Bible. Before that scripture it actually states that the husband must love his wife as Christ loves the church…that my friends is a pretty intense love! Before reading this I never knew how much my husband really needed respect. I always respected him, so I thought, but never knew how important it was within our marriage. This subject of love and respect within a marriage is so intertwined and so deep that this will have to be written over a course of some blog entries.
So buckle up my friend and let me encourage you to read Ephesians 5:22-33 and 1 Peter 3:1-7, meditate on those scriptures and ask God to show you anything that has not been loving or respectful within your marriage. Get ready to be humbled, corrected, but blessed! I promise once you read and pray about those scriptures you won’t look at your marriage the same again…He won’t let you 🙂 because…”For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart” Hebrews 4:12.
Hebrews 5:22-33 “22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansingb her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”c 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
1 Peter 3:1-7 “1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
7Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”