With my husband being in seminary, he is learning so many theological concepts and scripture that we have many discussions about our own walk with Christ and what each concept or scripture has to do with the body of Christ. I find it so refreshing as he talks to me about the things he is learning, but there are times we have clashed on our opinions on certain matters. I say clash because our opinions or discussions do not lead to arguments or even a raised voice, just differences of opinion that raise each of our awareness that we will not always agree on things about the Bible, just as it is with certain issues in raising our children. Nevertheless we still love and respect each others opinion.
Now, there was a time in our marriage where Jerry, not even knowing scripture, came to me and pointed certain things out that he felt was dentrimental to my walk with the Lord and our marriage. If I was living by the spirit I would have seen that he was coming to me as a loving brother-in-Christ, without judgment, admonishing me as Christ commanded, but instead, because I was living by my flesh, I saw him as judgmental, arrogant, and unloving. Colossians 3:16 says “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.” Now, I can only imagine those that think “It says in the Bible to tell brother so n’ so that if they don’t stop sinning they are going straight to hell” will interpret that scripture as saying as such, but it doesn’t along with Romans 15:16 “And concerning you, my brethren, I myself also am convinced that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge and able also to admonish one another.”
When my husband came to me about things he thought I should re-evaluate in my life that was hurting my walk with the Lord and my relationship with him and the children, it was first done in complete love and even though I didn’t recognize it, with the best of intentions…mine! I realize there are so many Christians walking around that think they are God’s apppointed “Life guards” and if they see other Christians drowning they throw out their own anchor instead of “The Anchor!” And what I mean by that is they throw out their judgment upon them, their unloving attitude, and their less than perfect wisdom upon the situation instead of throwing Christ out to them…His unconditional love, good intentions, and Word of God that can pull someone out of their mucky water. In 1 Corinthians 4:14 it speaks of also not shaming our brother or sister… “I do not write these things to make you ashamed, but to admonish you as my beloved children. So many of us just can’t wait to be like “Oh my, did you see what so n’ so wore to church on Sunday, or did you hear what so n’ so did on Friday night.” Not only is that shaming our brothers and sisters to other believers, but gossiping which once again is a whole other blog 🙂
Let me encourage you that if you are in the side of the boat that has a brother or sister in Christ admonishing you the way scripture speaks, listen and let the Holy Spirit correct the things they are speaking about. It hurts, but if those brothers and sisters are truly admonishing you as scripture speaks, you will see your sinful nature as they have seen it…redeemable! If you are in the side of the boat that has been throwing your own anchor out to your brothers and sisters in Christ that don’t need your intervention, but the intervention of “The anchor,” stop, repent, and stop being the “holier than thou” Christian and start admonishing other believers as Christ commanded us to..in love, goodness, with knowledge, and all wisdom. You get that wisdom first by seeking the good intentions of others always and by spending time in the Word. The Holy Spirit usually does the work for us, but when it doesn’t use the same Anchor that once pulled you out of your murky water 🙂