I feel lately that the Lord’s heart is being broken, not just with all the horrible things that happen on a daily basis in this world, but with the countless of christian marriages being tossed up in the air as if the vows spoken in front of God meant nothing. Now before I get the book thrown at me, let me just say I know there are instances where separation or divorce are necessary, so I am not referring to those. The ones I am referring to are ones where you both feel you have just had enough, you don’t see eye to eye on anything, you have “fallen out of love,” you have just grown apart, and nothing either one of you do just doesn’t seem good enough. Did I miss any?
When God created marriage He knew what He was doing because he created us…He created the “blueprint” in Ephesians 5:33 “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Now watch this…as I was seeking the Lord in this very issue of marriage, I was struck with a revelation. Jerry and I went through an almost two-year span of hell within our marriage and thankfully came out of the fire more refined, molded, and blessed than before. As we have now practiced this love and respect theme within our own marriage the blessings of God have continued to flow. “Well, that’s all great for you and Jerry, but what about me?” Glad you asked cause this revelation was found in 1 Timothy 3:2-5 “Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) With Jerry heading into the ministry I was just “wow” at this passage. “Well, how does that pertain to me? I am not a pastor or a pastor’s wife you ask?” The last part of that passage says “If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” That is huge cause we are all responsible in some way or another for God’s church. As Luke 16:11 says “And if you are untrustworthy about worldly wealth, who will trust you with the true riches of heaven?” This verse may pertain to materialistic worldly wealth, but isn’t fulfillment and happiness within a marriage wealth?
In my eyes, materialism cannot compare to the lasting fulfillment and peace that springs from a satisfying, loving, and respectful marriage. Look around at Hollywood and you will see the sure signs of what I speak! So, think about this for a moment….If you cannot handle and be trustworthy in your dealings within your own marriage because you refuse or are in denial about what He is asking you do to or not to do, how is God going to bless you with other relationships, with heavenly treasures like the abundant life He has for you here? It is the same for Luke 16:11 and all the treasures He wants to lavish down on you for the short time we are here. Your marriage may be directly linked to why God isn’t answering the rest of your prayers or pouring out His blessings upon your life!
I earnestly want to encourage you if you are having difficulty within your marriage to take another look and meditate on the passages given in this post and others I have in “Boomarang Blessings” and “What’s Love got to do with it.” Write them on the tablet of your heart and earnestly pray with them in mind and then……just listen and wait on the Lord. If you are doing your part wholeheartedly God always satisfies His child. Be forewarned though, it may not be the answer you are waiting for. Nevertheless, trust in His Word, trust in his timing, and have faith that God has your best interest at heart 🙂